There is a new show I've discovered called One Mississippi. The show is incredibly quirky and does deal with dark subjects, but the real reason I wanted to share it with you is because Tig is a fine example of someone who speaks her truth. She knows who she is, she shows up to the world as herself, and when confronted with people trying to change her, she uses a comedic approach. She has a gift for speaking her truth by shutting down the naysayers in a peaceful way. Her approach is authentic and I find myself wishing I were as brave as she.
You may not like the show, but Tig's character (which appears to be based on her real life) is worth studying. She isn't perfect, but she is real. I know I will certainly be taking notes.
Are you showing up brave and authentic in your life? What characters have moved you?
It's Friday! Not only am I leaving you with a campfire reflection for the weekend, I'm sharing with you what has been inspiring me this week. Have a great weekend.
Who is a person that you don’t like yet you spend time with?
Sound is everywhere. It is intertwined with your daily life through the coffee machine, your children laughing, street noise and music. Many of your memories and comforts are found in music. Sound can affect your moods and has the ability to energize you or slow you down. Plain and simple, some sounds make you feel better than others. But what about sound you can't hear?
According to the law of physics, we are all energy. Energy, in terms of the body, is vibrational sound. Joshua Leeds says in The Power of Sound, "whether or not we can hear it, everything has a sound, a vibration, all its own." When your natural vibration is out of tune you are highly susceptible to disease. In addition to being physically disrupting, being out tune affects your mental and spiritual health as well.
How does your body get out of tune? There are many reasons for the cause of dissonance in the body. Our modern world is demanding. Self care, mindfulness and relaxation are not tools utilized on a regular basis. However, the biggest culprit is an indoor lifestyle. According to the EPA, the average American spends 93% of time indoors. Consider this; we are born out of nature. We are animals after all. We have basic instincts that have evolved over millions of years. Our indoor lifestyle is relatively new in our human existence. Since the body is a natural organism it only makes sense that the physical, mental and spiritual systems are calibrated through nature. This process works through the vibrational sounds found outdoors that match the body's vibrations. The more time you spend indoors the less your body is in a state of balance.
If 93% of your time you are aligning with the wrong vibration, your body, mind and spirit are suffering. As a person striving to live a rich, wild and abundant life it doesn't add up. Living the indigo lifestyle means all systems are balanced and well, and that's hard to do when you are not considering the power vibrational sound can have. If you want to be well, as I imagine you do, there are a few things you can do to heal your body with sound.
FIVE WAYS TO KEEP THE BODY IN TUNE
- MEDITATE - You are robbed of silence on a regular basis. The senses are bombarded with noises that vibrate very low (cell phones, electronics, electricity, etc.). The body naturally has a high vibration. Creating silence through meditation will give your body space it needs to raise up.
- DITCH THE PHONE - Have regular intervals of no phone time. No dinging, buzzing, clicking, or clacking. Also by doing this you give your body rest from the sound of your phone you can't hear.
- MOTION - Movement uses energy and the body responds to motion. The body is meant to move. Take time to go for a short walk, ride a bike, run, or do yoga. Preferably outside. Using energy through excise raises your vibration.
- GROUND YOURSELF - Grounding is the ultimate way to clear the body of stagnate energies that cause disease. Take off your shoes, find grass, stone or sand and walk around barefoot for 5-10 minutes. Do this daily.
- GO OUTSIDE - Simply put, the best thing you can do for your health is spend as much time outside as you can. Work from an outdoor cafe, create a backyard oasis, or take your child(ren) and/or pets to the park.
This is, without a doubt, one of the trickiest topics to talk about. I'm bound to hurt someone's feelings because most of what I write about is based on personal experience. I apply Nora Ephron's motto to my life; everything is copy. All of this to say, I've been on the receiving end of a lot of unwanted advice, specifically parenting advice. While you may not be receiving parenting advice, I know you can relate.
My natural inclination is to get upset about the unwanted opinions. To be frustrated and annoyed. To go on the defense and explain, or over explain, the reasons behind the decisions I make for son. And then I would move into attack mode and make a lenthgly list of all the things they do wrong in their own life and give them some advice of my own. At least in my head anyway. You get the point. Feel attacked and attack right back.
I didn't do this and before you decide to get upset or angry about your experience, take a step back. By following that bunny trail you would be sitting in the their business and not your own. Not only would you be sitting in their business about how they, the advisors, feel about you, it would also trigger the story you tell yourself about not being good enough. Sitting in their business causes self-doubt about your ability to make wise choices and it would stew. For days, most likely. This mindset does not promote a rich life.
So how exactly do you deal with unwanted advice while staying in your own business?
6 Tips to Deal With Unwanted Advice
Start with a little introspection. If you find that you are immediately getting defensive chances are the advice may just be the very thing you need, but you just don't want to admit it. Defensiveness is a sign that there is something amiss in your life. What is it? Are you in denial about it?
Spend some time considering the position of the advice giver. Are their motives selfish in nature or is their opinion coming from an experience that you didn't consider? Having a better understanding of the origin can offer you a different perspective. Of course you won't really know their motive unless you ask.
CONSIDER THE ADVICE
Typically advice is given from someone you trust and is done with your best interest at heart. While it may not be what you think you want or should do, it doesn't hurt to consider it. Try a pros/cons list or imagine what the opposite decision would feel like. It doesn't mean their advice is the right thing to do, but it will help you define what you don't want.
ARE YOUR VALUES IN CHECK
There is a reason you are making the choices you are, but testing them is always a good idea. Consider it checks and balances. What do you value and do your choices and decisions match those values? This is also helpful information to have in your arsenal if you do choose to speak up.
TALK IT OUT
In my experience, the advice is given on more than one occassion. If this happens, the best thing to do is have a conversation about it. Ask the advisor to keep opinions to him or herself or let them know how you feel about their advice. This is the most authentic approach.
LET IT GO
Getting worked up about unwanted advice only puts more stress and pressure on yourself. Once you have moved through the process, let it go and know that you are the only person that can make the best decisions for yourself or your children. Have confidence in what you believe. That is how you stay in your business and stop being in theirs. Be grateful for them having reminded you to do so.
A client recently reached out to tell me about her new mattress. While this may sound strange, as a mattress is an everyday item that gets replaced from time to time, this mattress is extraordinary. SHE MANIFESTED THE MATTRESS. That's right, out of the blue she asked for a particular mattress, waited, and then it came into her life. The circumstances involve her cancer, lack of funds and the desperate need for a mattress that will support her healing body. One she couldn't afford after medical bills, but desperately needed. I walked her through the process of how to manifest what you want. She trusted it and voilà; after her friend asked her about her sleep the friend purchased the exact mattress my client asked the universe for.
While manifesting has become a common word that has lost it's luster, it's no less effective. It works because it aligns with your true self. When you touch base with exactly what it is you want and you believe that you can have it, the universe will provide. It's that simple. The problem lies in the believing part. Most of us falter because of a lack of self worth and the process fails. With a little work, it can be done. Here is how the process works.
How to Manifest What You Want
- IDENTIFY THE TRUTH
Spend some time defining what you want and then ask yourself if what you want feels right? Be specific. Does it align with your values? How will you benefit from it or is this something that will simply make you look good in the eyes of others. If it's the latter, you have more work to do.
- MINIMIZE ROADBLOCKS
Finding out what will get in the way of what you want is important. While roadblocks may be toxic people you need to drop, many of our roadblocks come from within. What limiting beliefs do you have that block the lines of energy connecting you to universe? Meditation can help.
Imagery brings the end result to you immediately. Sit quietly and imagine what it would look, feel, smell, sound and taste like when you get what you want. The more you become the person that already has what you want the faster it will happen. Imagery work is powerful!
The universe works on its own timeline, but energy flows where attention goes. Ask yourself; who do I need to call, does my schedule need rearranged, what is the conversation I need to have? Also, act on your intuition. Listen to your "gut" and follow the instructions.
- HAVE GRATITUDE
By far this is the most important step. Have gratitude for what you already have in your life and when you receive what you want, give thanks. Light a candle, say a prayer, share your success or meditate on good vibes. This is a transactional relationship. You pay for what you want by practicing gratitude.
I've created a worksheet for you to start getting what you want in your life. And when you do, I hope you reach out just as my client did. Happy manifesting!
We grow wiser everyday, and as we experience life we get "better" at living. Today's reflection is about finding gratitude for your personal growth.