What do you value most in a friendship?
Today I am addressing the topic that causes most of us to roll our eyes; self care. Your point is valid, it has become a bit cliche as of late, but bear with me on this. If you are searching for joy in your life, self care must be valued. Why is nurturing yourself so difficult or frightening?
Think about the last time you did something for yourself that you truly enjoyed. Really dig into that memory. What were you doing, what were you wearing and who were the people with you (unless you did this alone)? Use your senses to recall this pleasant memory. When you’ve done that, read on…
How did you feel being that person? What did you feel? Who would you be if you felt that way every day? It begs the question; why don’t you live this way all the time? For most of us, making the changes necessary to get us closer to our true north (authentic selves) is too overwhelming or feels impossible. Old thought patterns and ruts we are stuck in feel more comfortable than the exposure of getting out of them would be. Even though taking the high road would get us to our rich, wild and abundant lives.
Leo Tolstoy said that true life is lived when tiny changes occur. When getting to your authentic life feels too daunting, step back and choose to find something you can do now, today. Don’t think about or worry what would need to change tomorrow or next month, just make one simple act today.
Here is a tool to get you started. I want you to list 10 ways to take care of yourself. I’ve created a list to give you a few great ideas in case you are having trouble coming up with anything. Feel free to borrow from my list.
This is one of the best acts of self kindness anyone could do for themselves. There is no need to make it complicated. You don’t need to know what to do, just sit, for five minutes or ten and do nothing. Observe the world around you or pay attention to your breathing. If thoughts start to intrude, take notice and get back to observing and breathing. Don’t make the thoughts a story. The effects are unimaginable.
Go outside. Over 100 studies show that spending time in nature has a positive impact on our brains, bodies, feelings, thought processes, and social interactions.
I don’t want to say exercise because that isn’t positive for everyone, but movement might mean exercise for you. Movement simply means moving your body in a way that isn’t sedentary: walking, yoga, running, biking, swimming, dancing, etc.
There is no other way around this one. When you eat your greens you feel better. It’s evolutionary.
No way around this one either, but I didn’t realize how much better I would feel by drinking more water until I did it. It’s a game changer and something we can all do. Drink half your body weight in water a day. It’s not as much as you think.
Positive music has a high vibration and exposing yourself to anything with a high vibration is cleansing for the mind, body, and soul.
Sometimes taking care of myself means sitting down with my journal and pouring out everything I’m feeling onto the pages. Your journal can be a trusted friend.
Most of my learning comes through reading these days, but it can also mean taking a class or attending a workshop that interests you.
Paint, sew, draw, cook or find a creative outlet that speaks to you.
The best way you can take care of yourself is by giving thanks for all you have in your life. Start a gratitude journal.
Now that you’ve made your list, pick one and it do today. It’s one tiny step that gets you closer to your indigo life. You have nothing to lose and everything to gain.
Is there something you've dreamed of doing for a long time?
Why haven't you done it?
This week I wrote about finding compassion for others when they have wronged you. I am excited to share a resource with you from the Center for Healthy Minds at the University of Wisconsin-Madison that will help you with your compassion journey. Helen Weng, the founder, and her team have the amazing job of researching and developing compassion training. Weng created a 30 minute guided meditation to cultivate compassion towards a loved one, yourself, a neutral person, an enemy, and for all.
Set it aside for the weekend. It's powerful enough to create change, and you don't want to miss it!