This is my cat Lucky. I have a way of communicating with her that involves making a clicking sound with my mouth. Whenever I make the sound, she comes to me. It works every time. I started doing this because my dog gets jealous if I'm sharing the love with the cats. In the past, when I called for Lucky by name, Annie, our dog, would come and chase her away. So we have a nonverbal understanding.
The other day, P went looking for Lucky. She hangs out under the bed, hiding from Annie I suppose. He bent over, peered under the bed, and made a clicking sound with his mouth! Now every time he sees Lucky, he makes the same noise. I have never talked to him about this, or showed him how to do it. I just do it all the time and apparently, he has been watching and listening.
As I lay in bed that night, I started to wonder what else he is learning that I haven't intentionally taught him. I scrolled through the text in my mind of my conversations with myself, what I have said on the phone, with cc, or even what has been said on the tv or radio. Let's be honest, it isn't always nice. I cast judgments towards myself and others, and sometimes what I say is ugly.
I don't want my son to be raised on ugly words. I made a mental note as I rolled over to go to sleep to start watching what I say when he is around. But after a sleepless night, I knew there was more I needed to learn with this lesson. I let it stew that morning and it occurred to me that if ugly words are not good enough for him to hear, they shouldn't be good enough for me to hear either, especially because there is no truth in them.
I knew what I needed to do. My words and actions needed to be kinder and full of love, but deep embedded thought habits are hard to break. I needed something that would stop me in my tracks when I started veering off course. And there was the answer. In the clicking noise. The clicking became a trigger for me. I set an intention that I would be alerted by my guides when my thinking goes south. I would stop, make the clicking sound and reroute my thoughts.
How would your thoughts and words change
if you knew someone was always listening?
If you remember that your true self is always listening, the self that has your back, only wants what is best for you, and is the very essence of who you are, then it would become unnecessary to utter any unkind words. They are only hurtful. They do not promote growth.
On a happy note, the side affect of approaching life this way is the shock wave of change that will happen. By remembering that someone is always listening, you will naturally influence those around you, just my like my son was influenced by how I call for the cat. I know that by changing how I speak to myself and others it will affect him on a positive level.