Here we are in mid January and I’m in a bit of a panic. The energy of the new year has begun to wear off and I have this feeling that it’s too late. I’ve missed my window to set my intentions for the new year. Are you feeling the same? Between trying to recover my energy reserves from the flu and new work opportunities that have kept me busy I have pushed off planning for the new year. I still don’t have my vision board complete and as far as intentions? I’ve only thought about setting them.
But just as I said to myself, I will say to you: no need for panic. Keep in mind we are socially conditioned to have it all figured out by, say, January 5th. Then the media is on to other topics and we have shifted back to old habits. Personal growth is a slow process and there are twelve months ahead of you so it’s time to slow down, breathe, and start finding your clarity. It’s never too late.
Why set intentions and not goals?
Conventional methods require you to create tangible and specific goals. An entire list of them carefully crafted with all the shoulds in mind: Be more social, start exercising, say no a little more. A list of everything you think you should be doing to better your self and your life. It’s a good start, but it lacks in clarity. Sure it creates a sense of action, but it’s action by duty and not backed by feeling.
Resolutions, or goals, by definition are a solution to a problem, but what is the problem? Perhaps you can look at your life and list many things that you consider to be a problem. However, I encourage you to flip that thought and realize that given your circumstances, you’ve done the best you could have done with what you’ve had available: time, money, talent, etc. This year, it’s time to ditch the resolutions and goals and create an intention for 2019. There is always room for improvement even when life is in a good place.
Intention: purpose or attitude toward the effect of one's actions or conduct.
Setting an intention does involve action, but it’s rooted in purpose and clarity. An intention is the understanding of why you are doing what you are doing and not just the how.
How you set your intentions is completely up to you. It’s intuitively different for each person. That’s what makes the human race so fantastic, by the way. The following is a list of how you can start getting clear about what you want this year.
CLEAR YOUR MENTAL CLUTTER - Do this by determining one area in your home that you don’t like. Then clean, clear, or change that space to match the area in your home that you love. Your outer world reflects your inner world so when you clear physical clutter it clears mental clutter.
DETERMINE HOW YOU WANT TO FEEL - Most of the time we do things because we think we have to or other people tell us it’s what we are supposed to do. Spend time making a list of the feelings you want to feel. Start with this worksheet.
SET INTENTIONS - After clearing your space and determining how you want to feel, set your intentions for the year to match those feelings by using this worksheet.
CREATE REMINDERS - Find a method to be visually reminded of your intentions; find a word-of-the-year, use post-it notes, create a vision board, make lists, find an accountability partner, create a mantra, etc.
If after you’ve done all that you still feel a little lost you can always utilize your best resource; me. I am your field guide for life and I have an intention setting method to help you dig deeper and find your clarity.
Happy new year!